When moving through the various stages of life, do you ever stop to consider what it takes to down size to the point that you are ready to Age in Place.  Aging in Place suggests that at some point you will need to also prepare your residence for a live-in caregiver.

Peter Sosnkowski lives in Victoria, and is someone we currently provide companionship for.  Peter was very gracious in allowing the writer to interview him for this article.  Peter is likely one of the most prepared individuals we have worked with, with regards to planning his home for future possible live-in care.

Peter was asked what criteria he had for choosing his residence in Victoria.  He states “Being at home” is more a psychological state of mind that a physical address. I chose Victoria because it’s smaller than Vancouver, and what I really wanted was access to restaurants and services easily accessed by walking or a short drive.  Plus, my children live on the west coast of North America, and visits can easily be accommodated”.  When asked about the actual move, Peter stated “Moving and downsizing to this extent is one of life’s traumatic experiences, with a repository  of treasures including fine art, furniture and memorabilia from many years of travel, downsizing from 6000 square feet to 1100 square feet was a great challenge.”  Peter states that in choosing his condo, he also carefully considered “dignified and adequate quarters” for a future live-in care worker.

Covid was a huge catalyst for beginning the companion process.  Peter who was used to eating out, states he lost 40 pounds in three months.  New guidelines stating that we should stay at home and avoid contact with others meant that he neglected his nourishment.  Peter states “it was providence” that he found us at a time he really needed help.

Peter states “living in my own home, making my own choices, sleeping in my own bed, and yet still having access to advice, care and atmosphere” are important aspects to him.   It is why he carefully chose an agency that was willing to provide exactly the services he wanted and on his own terms.  Choosing a carer that is the ‘best fit’ is also very important as they become an important part of your life.  Building a relationship on mutual trust and respect becomes even more important that the actual care.

Peter states that in his professional life he ate in three star restaurants all over the world and that eating meals that are prepared well, healthy, with many choices is very important to him.  To that extent he has two wonderful ladies that provide that for him 5 days per week, and whom he says have also become wonderful companions.  Peter describes his companions as “thoroughly organized and dedicated individuals with a great skill set and diverse backgrounds!”.

Peter is wonderfully prepared for his future needs.  Many however are not.  Downsizing is and can be very traumatic, and putting it off will only make the move more challenging.  Gradual downsizing through our older years, may be more reasonable and much easier to ease in to.

Our elders and their families often spend years preparing by downsizing from their family home to a condo or smaller home.  At some point, a decision has to be made whether you are healthy enough to stay in your home to Age in Place. There can often be a time when Aging in Place is not the right plan for our elders.  With that in mind, a decision frequently must be made by family and the agency with regards to the senior’s safety.  Some of these are:

  1. Is it financially viable to remain at home with care? Live-in care can be very costly and is determined by how high the level of care is.  Live-in care is priced by assessing the senior for their care needs.  Often we place a worker in a companion role, with meal preparation and cuing necessary.
  2. Does the senior put themselves or their worker at risk by remaining at home? One caregiver relayed that her client was up at night looking for matches to light the wood stove.  It was 2 am and he was cold.  When she assisted him down the stairs to the fire, she found that it was loaded tight with garbage and toys from his small dog.  Had he started that fire, there could have been very serious repercussions.
  3. Is the senior benefitting from being in their own home? As stated, live-in care can be very costly especially at the end stages of life.  If your senior is in advanced stages of dementia and sleeps most of the day, or is not aware of their surroundings, then moving to a facility are may be the better choice for your elder.

By preparing for your future care needs as Peter has, you will be able to maintain a level of living that you are accustomed to.  Planning, choosing and decision making don’t become part of Aging in Place, but a continuation of living life as you have always done!

Activities of Daily Living (ADL) is a term that health professionals use to describe an individual’s daily self-care activities. They use it as a measure of your functional status to assess how fit you are to stay in your home. There are six ADLs including bathing or showering, dressing, self-feeding, personal hygiene and grooming, toileting, and mobility (the ability to move yourself from one place to another).

One of the more important ADL is transferring and mobilizing.  Without functional mobility, you will not be able to go to the dining room to eat or get out of bed to get to the bathroom or dress yourself.  More importantly, all the other ADLs are dependent on your strength and mobility – specifically what we call “functional strength.”

Stay in the home you love longer

The biggest advantage of being a functionally fit person is that you get to stay in your own home as long as possible.  Why is this?  When a group at a local independent living residence involved in a care discussion were asked about staying home, they unanimously agreed it was their top priority. They wanted to sleep in their own bed, eat their own meals, be free to make choices and remain independent. One resident responded that she liked her home because “I’m familiar with my surroundings.” Her neighbor agreed. He said, “I can do what I want to do when I want to do it.”

As we grow older, remaining independent really comes down to one’s functional fitness. You need to stay strong. The good news is, with a little commitment and help, you can maintain, even regain your functional strength. “Whatever activity you do, there is an exercise that will target the muscles and joints required to do the activity and enable you to do them longer,” says Medical Exercise Specialist, Emma.

Fall Prevention

One of the things that happens when your balance deteriorates is a tendency to shuffle in order to try and keep your feet close to the ground.  Medical Exercise Specialists will work with you to build a strong gait pattern and encourage proper posture.  Every time you strike your heel on the floor, it impacts the bones and builds density. Shuffling does nothing for the bone.

The exercises are repetitive in nature to encourage those with Parkinson’s Disease or Dementia to gain a regular gait pattern through neuro muscular facilitation – the messaging which takes place between the muscles to the brain and the brain giving feedback to the muscles.

Picking Yourself Up

Falling is dangerous however getting stranded on the floor after a fall can be deadly. While we certainly don’t recommend any exercises from the floor, we do show you how to get up off the floor, because many people who fall don’t have any way to get up off the ground. We teach a couple of very simple ways to get up again, and there are some fine exercises which target the upper body and legs to assist with the push up off the floor.

In Home Chair Exercises

Even if you have difficulty standing, you can do many of these exercises from the comfort of your own chair and reap the benefits of increased strength.

Recover from surgery and hospital visits more quickly

If you undergo hip or knee replacement surgery, the exercise program you should do post-surgery is very comprehensive. These post-surgery exercises are extremely important. If you don’t do them, the muscles targeted in the surgery will atrophy.

When you leave the hospital, the outpatient program that sets you up with exercises sincerely hopes you will continue to follow-up in the community where you have the support of qualified personnel to assist you.

Seniors are into fitness for a completely different reason. They want to recover from surgery, focus on balance issues to prevent falling and make sure old injuries don’t come back to haunt them.

Engage a physiotherapist or Medical Exercise Specialist to set you up for in-home exercises which incorporates cardiovascular and strength training and specific exercises for balance and core strength.

Written by Johanna Booy, of Care & Company Ltd., SeniorCareVictoria.ca.

More and more seniors are opting to age in place – stay in the home they know and love for many reasons.  Aging in place is by no means a new phenomenon.  Only a few generations ago, many families lived and died at home; families made way for grand dad to sit by the fire in a rocking chair having converted a den to a bed sitting room.  We’ve departed from this style of inter-generational living; we are however beginning to see a shift back to this model of senior care.


Aging in place is a term used for individuals both wishing to live at home or at a residential care complex until they die.  Seniors living at home experience rewards such as being able to stay in familiar surroundings, maintain a routine, sleep in their own bed, eat food they like to eat, and stay involved in making choices.  Many seniors and their families relate they enjoy the one on one care and consistency in care of bringing in a care worker to assist the senior to age in place.  However this model of care is not always possible.  When the time comes to interview a community of care or complex care home for your parent or loved one you should ask if they have aging in place capacity.  Our seniors do not do well with numerous moves in advanced age with the upheaval causing much stress and anxiety.


In a recent article a daughter remarked on the benefits of aging in place stating that “Emotionally and financially it is more rewarding.  Quality of life and personal attention, consistency of care and one on one care is better.  Family input is welcome and family are empowered.”


We often read of couples where one spouse requires a higher level of care due to advanced dementia and is cared for by the other spouse.  The burden is great, and sometimes the couple is split, leaving one spouse at home and the other in care.  Aging in place and providing home support services to keep them together is very important.  Seniors experience benefits emotionally, physically and financially.


There are however challenges in aging in place.  One of the greatest challenges seniors face is running out of funds to remain at home.  When the senior can no longer ‘bear the cost of care’ it may be time to make the transition to complex care.  Care agencies should consult with seniors and their families when they foresee an increase in future cost of care due to increased services required to assist the senior to live at home.


Another indicator care coordinators use as a benchmark for determining whether aging in place is a viable choice is when our seniors put the care worker or residents of the home or apartment building they live in at risk; this is usually a great indicator for moving.  We all live at risk, our seniors do so when they choose to stay in a home with stairs and experience the many challenges of living at home.  No one lives without risk – we hope as care workers to minimize that risk whether at home or in care home.


Seniors and families usually have a plethora of choices for care provision.  Navigating the health care system, knowing the terminology and understanding the various levels of care available to seniors is confusing at times.  Seek out reputable agencies, look into resources available in your community and check in with your local health authority for more information on how to care for your loved one to appropriately prepare for the future.


Written by Johanna Booy, of Care & Company Ltd., SeniorCareVictoria.ca.

It’s amazing the items left over when someone you love passes. My mum passed away on her birthday this year. My dad is in an independent living home, having moved only 3 weeks prior to her death. The house they lived in sold and was closing at the end of July. So much to do to complete this chapter of their life.
On the last day before closing, and on the buffet where my mother’s family pictures were arrayed for the past 14 years, were a number of items no one wanted… Antique dolls, photographs of people no one recognized, tacky holiday pictures in frames … That is until a grandson with a sentimental heart arrived on the scene. He wanted the button jar – a mason jar full of buttons! “Buttons” he said “I want those”.

“Really, I remarked – a button jar! What on earth will you do with that?” “Well, it’s obvious someone went to a lot of work to save them”, he remarks.
Those buttons represent 65 years of painstakingly removing small decorative and to today’s standard, antique buttons from items of clothing her three daughters had outgrown or simple garments she acquired from odd jobs she did sewing for her clients in the 60s.

Somethings as simple as this button jar, conjures up more memories that I can recall. Not only did we collect buttons and threads, but zippers, snaps, bows, bling (sequins) and anything we would otherwise have to pay for at the shop.

These buttons in a jar, represent once more things we don’t think of saving in this disposable society. On the other hand, how many buttons and zippers adorn the clothing of our present-day clothing, making this relic a true item of sentiment for one grandson to bring home and wonder…. Why exactly did I pick this?

Memories are made of this!


Written by Johanna Booy, of Care & Company Ltd., SeniorCareVictoria.ca.

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What is ‘Aging in Place’ exactly?  The senior who Ages in Place lives at home until they die.   Various types of support services are implemented to ensure that all the needs of the senior are met.  Home Support Workers, Registered Care Aides and a variety of Nursing staff will help the senior live at home with as little as 2 hours per day to full 24 hour live-in support.

Aging in Place is also the term used when seniors are looking for a residential care home. Once seniors move to a care home, it is very hard on them to move them through various levels of care when care needs increase.  Therefore it is a very important question to ask when interviewing the care facility.  All complex care residences/hospitals will have that capacity.

More and more, seniors and their families are making the choice to remain at home with help.  Emotionally, physically and financially, seniors benefit from Aging in Place.

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